Mon, 20th Sep, 2021 / 13 Safar, 1443
الإثنين ٢٠ , سبتمبر , ٢٠٢١ / 13 صَفَر‎ , 1443
Mon, 20th Sep, 2021 /
13 Safar, 1443
الإثنين ٢٠ , سبتمبر , ٢٠٢١ / 13 صَفَر‎ , 1443

My dear brothers in Islam; I remind myself and you to fear Allah, The One deserving of Glory and Exaltment, and is clear from all the attributes of the creations and imperfection, and to adhere to the true Religion of Islam.

Brothers in Islam, Severing the ties of kinship is among the sins of the body, and it is a major sin by consensus. This is done by breaking the hearts of the relatives by refusing to be good-hearted financially if they are in true need, or by leaving out visiting them without an excuse. If one usually helps one’s relatives, then one lost the money, or one found a more urgent need for it, then one would not be sinful for not offering it to one’s relatives.

 Ayahs 22-23 of Surat Muhammad dispraise those who blaspheme and cut off the ties of kinship.

 The Prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, said what means: “The one who severs the ties with the relatives will not be among the first to enter Paradise. Rather, this person will enter it after being tortured in Hellfire (i.e., if one dies as a Muslim).” (Narrated by al-Bukhariyy.)

Kinship includes the relatives: aunts, uncles, and their children.

 A Companion asked the Prophet: “What is the way of saving oneself in the Hereafter?” The Prophet said: “You maintain the tie with the one who severed it with you, you give to the one who deprived you, and you forgive the one who wronged you.” (Related by at-Tirmidhiyy.)

 These three (3) traits were among the traits and manners of the Prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, one of which is maintaining relations with the kin who severed ties with one. This means one has to observe the right that the kin has on one by maintaining the ties with them. So it is not permissible for one to treat a relative in a way in which the relative feels cut off and deserted, even if the latter himself does not observe one’s right of kinship ties.

One must not say so-and-so of my relatives does not visit me, so I will not visit him. It is prohibited for him to treat the one who severed ties with him likewise; rather it is an obligation on him to maintain a tie, even with the one who severed the tie with him.

 The Prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, said:

لَيْسَ الْوَاصِلُ بِالْمُكَافِىءِ وَلكِنَّ الْوَاصِلَ مَنْ وَصَلَ رَحِمَهُ إِذَا قَطَعَتْ

This hadith explicitly states that there is merit in maintaining a tie with the one who severed ties with you and the one who did not, rather than maintaining it only with the one who did not sever the tie with you. This is among the good manners that the Religion has strongly urged us to practice.

And Allah knows best.

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